To cut a long story short the divorce took ages & custody re my baby sister was very drawn out, because they were in Spain & the fact my brother was classed as an adult so could look after the one twin.
What really did it with me & my dad is when he was allowing & encouraging my 14 year old sister to see & sleep with a 26 year old. The age of consent in Spain is 13 but it doesn't mean he has to encourage her to sleep with someone twice her age.
I washed my hands of him & had one hell of a phone conversation with him & told him I never wanted to see him again, that as far as I was concerned he might as well be dead. Harsh, but after all he's done he disgusts me. He saw nothing wrong in the fact my one sister was 14 & the guy she was seeing was 26.
I hate him for what he's done & the damage he's caused, the hurt & the abuse. If he died tomorrow I would probably be upset but I wouldn't miss him. I know that sounds truly awful but I just can't ever forgive him for what he's allowed to happen & the damage & hurt he's put my mum, my brothers & my sisters through. All because of alcohol.
From the age of about 13 I was having to comfort & look after my sisters because he was taking things out on my mum & she nearly had a breakdown, I was having them come into my bed at night crying & upset because of what they'd heard & seen & me trying to make out everything was fine & stop them getting upset. All of this because he values what's in a bottle more than the family he had.
The reason I'm so happy? My brother has decided to come back home & leave him to it rather than supporting him out of guilt. My sister has moved in with the guy she was seeing, not the best outcome but at least she's happy & he wasn't in it for one thing. As much as I disagreed with him sleeping with her it's legal there. I still don't like the idea but there isn't much you can do sometimes.
Finally, things are settling down & getting back on track & I'm so happy.
My brother, who I get on really well with & am close to is coming home & at long last, our family is starting to get back to normal.