That's what I got described as last week. By two people!
I don't consider myself posh at all, I just know how to behave in situations and talk correctly and I find I get a much better response from people when I speak to them nicely and correctly than others do when they speak like a chav.
My mother brought me up to show good manners, decorum and to behave like a lady and it has to be said, she thinks I should sip wine when I'm out rather than drink brandy on the rocks but never mind, worse things happen than me getting tipsy on brandy.
I have my moments of madness but believe that it's far more attractive to be on the slightly demure side than it is to have all my wares on display and oddly, it has been really noticed when my sister and I have been out on the town. Not so long ago we were both stopped by two guys and were told how good we looked and how nice it was to see two girls making the most of themselves whilst still managing to remain decent and show some class. Neither of us were wearing anything majorly outstanding but it was really nice to have that said to us.
When we were bought drinks by two guys one of them said to me "What's your real accent? You surely don't speak like that all the time? If you do then you are officially Posh Totty!" he didn't believe that A. I did and B. I couldn't really grasp what he meant when he thought the way I spoke was out of the ordinary. I did laugh at the Posh Totty comment though :-D.
He only believed me when my sister backed me up and said that I did speak in that way pretty much all the time. I did find it sad in a way that it seemed to be unusual for him to come across someone who used the English language correctly. He said that most people he came across were obsessed with the chavvy slang and dreaded 'txt spk' even in emails and on the telephone.
So back to what happened last week, the two instances were as follows and I feel the one is a bit of a backhanded compliment :-D.
I was at the yard last week and the farrier was visiting so there were a few of us in the yard having a chat and some banter when it came up about music and for some reason, the farrier piped up with "You ever heard that song by Scouting For Girls? Posh Girls it's called. I reckon that was based on you".
Now that may sound like a nice compliment and in a way it is but I know the song and the chorus and some of the lyrics are a bit 'Oh!' in places :-D.
I threatened to knock him off my Christmas card list if there were any more comments like that and all he could do was laugh and wink. I've a feeling I may be giving him a Tesco Value range Christmas card this year!
The second instance was when I was on Skype to the boyfriend.
We were talking and I must have said something in a particular way because he interrupted and said "You do talk well but bloody hell, you even talk posh on Skype. Say it again."
That just made me laugh, a lot.
I really don't consider myself to be 'posh' but it is nice to know that when I talk to people, I obnviously come across well. I have a love for the English language and refuse to desecrate it by using the dreaded 'txt spk' or lots of slang. Unfortunately I do sometimes swear but have been told even that sounds posh which I do not believe in the slightest as I hate it when I hear women swearing, it just seems to sound so much worse coming from a woman's mouth than it does a man's.
In my old job there was a comment made that actually made me blush but made me feel quite pleased at the same time. While I was in college I worked ad-hoc shifts for the student hostel I was staying in and part of that job was to answer the telephones and take payments over the phone from various parents paying room fees for their children. I answered the telephone one day and was chatting to this man while his payment was going through for his son when he said "This may be slightly inappropriate but I have to tell you before I go, you have the most fantastic accent and voice I've heard in a very long time. Don't take this the wrong way but you could do dangerous things to a man by speaking on the telephone like that".
I blushed an awful lot and giggled because I was slightly embarrassed but he was a nice guy and wasn't at all lechy or pervy so he obviously meant it as a compliment. He must have said something to his son because when he came back after the Summer break he said to me "My dad says next time he makes a payment, please can you answer the telephone to him" which again made me laugh.
My punctuation leaves a lot to be desired sometimes and I'm not word-perfect when it comes to some things but I do know my grammar and how to use words in the correct context when I speak most of the time and it really does make a huge difference to how you are perceived by people when you make the effort to speak correctly and properly.
I am a bit of a grammar fiend and will correct one or two close friends and my sisters but I obviously wouldn't dream of doing it to anybody else as that would be rude. It just seems a shame that we have a lovely language and wonderful words such as 'discombobulated' and 'flibbertigibbet' which are two of my favourite words ever and yet so many people seem to think 'innit' is a perfectly good response in a conversation and that does quite sadden me. I fully intend to bring up any children I have with a good grasp of the English language and if they ever use the word 'innnit' or 'reem' then I will lock them in the broom cupboard with a dictionary and orders to read it fully ;o) :-P
"How do you make a small fortune from horses? Start with a large one!"
Oh so true! :-D